Friday, September 2, 2011

Some Days are Harder than Others

I had a rough day today.

I cannot begin to tell you how excited I am about my new business. I've been following my techniques that I wrote about in my book, Magnetic Marketing: How to Attract Clients & Dollars, to a T and the results have been phenomenal. I'm really proud of myself. My primary approach to my business is to post on FaceBook and let people that are interested in working from home tell me that they are interested, and then I tell them what the opportunity is. Last month, I personally added 26 people to my team. Unfortunately, two people changed their mind after I added them and they didn't confirm. (At least, I think they changed their minds... They still haven't gotten back to me. Talk about frustrating... And RUDE.)

I started September off with a BANG, too. On the first day of the month, I had four people join my team. Two were people I added myself. Another person was added by my director. The fourth was someone I helped someone else on my team enroll. Four people on the first day of the month. I was JAZZED!

So jazzed, in fact, that I set a goal to add six more people to my team today. Regardless of who on my team added the people, I wanted to help and get six new team members. I even stepped out of my comfort zone and approached people personally... Something I really don't have the time (or the tolerance) for. I'm not a "hard sell" kind of person. I like people approaching me, because I feel as though I have the upper hand.

I've known these two women for about four years. I chatted with one online about joining my team, and she told me that she wasn't interested. I said "okay, but please keep me in mind if you change your mind." After all, once someone says "no," I back off. A few hours later, she sends this email to me and my director (also a friend of hers) saying how she feels as though she's being pressured to join my team, pressured to buy things she doesn't want and as though her friendship is being taken for granted. I was totally dumbfounded and offended. First, I never asked her to buy anything. I never tried to sell anything. That isn't even my take on this business-- There's nothing to sell. She said no, I said okay, she asked me about pricing a vacation. That was the end of the conversation.

The second woman, I literally sent a chat message to saying that I'd love to have her on my team with the three other women that she knows. That's it. I then went to Physical Therapy. She hadn't responded. She then writes this diatribe in a group that we are in, saying how she isn't interested in joining my team, yada yada yada. Rather than saying, "no thanks," she publicly posts it. So I sent her a message saying that I was offended by what she did, and I would have appreciated if she had told me in a private chat that she wasn't interested. Long story short, the conversation ended with her telling me not to contact three other women in our group because they all told her that they weren't interested... And I had been speaking with one that day! I talked to the third girl and told her what I was told, and she said that she had just decided that she wasn't interested.

It felt like high school all over again. I was so upset and disheartened, I unfriended the second girl and left the group that I had been a part of for four years. I am so embarassed to have been treated that way. It was belittling, degrading, insulting and downright R-U-D-E.

My motivation.
 It ruined my day. I got into a funk I couldn't shake, so I closed the computer and took my kids mini-golfing with my husband, and then out for dinner and ice cream. The entire time, my mind kept wandering back to the two women that reacted the way they did... As though I was a salesman trying to sell them arsenic-laced cookies or something.

Then it dawned on me: Some people are just plain rude.

Unfortunately, I did not write a section in Magnetic Marketing about rejection. Clearly, I need to. Just because people do not want to join my team doesn't mean that I'm a bad person, nor does it mean that I have less value than anyone else. I am doing so well for myself and my family, and I let these two women take that away from me today. I felt completely devalued. I haven't been spoken to that way since my freshman year in high school, when I tried out for cheerleading. I didn't make the team, so I became place kicker and made those bitches cheer for me. (Excuse my language.)

My bonuses from 8/6/11 - 9/1/11
After I put my kids to bed, I logged into my account for this new side business and clicked the "PAY ME" button to get the bonuses that I've earned so far: $620.20. With that money, I'm completely paying off my Lowe's credit card, paying for gymnastics, donating to my church, getting a pedicure and stashing some away for a rainy day. Not bad for three weeks' worth of "work," and I've got a check coming in about two weeks.

I've gotta admit, it took writing this for me to see everything today clearly. You know what? Today wasn't so bad. I spent time with my husband and kids, made some contacts, weeded out a dandelion and cashed out a nice chunk of change that is going to make a difference in a few things.

Maybe today wasn't so rough after all.

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